On December 30th, 2012, one Timothy Ntilosanje posted in the facebook forum, My Malawi My Views the article titled ‘Joyce Banda from Husband Snatcher To President’. And the ruling Peoples Party’s face book wing Patriotic Forum has responded to the post. Below is both the post and the response.
Joyce Banda from Husband Snatcher to President
By Timothy Ntilosanje
Joyce Banda, the President of Malawi, always claims to be a champion of women’s rights. This is the face she wears in public. But her true attitude towards women is hidden in the private where she is a vicious abuser of rights of other women.
Mayi Nyauhango is one of the victims of Joyce Banda. The old lady currently lives
at Mapale in Mzuzu. She is the first wife of Richard Banda, the first gentleman. She no longer lives with Mr. Banda, and the two failed to raise their children (Ian and Suzan) together because of Joyce Banda. She snatched Mr. Banda from Nyauhango.
While he was Minister of Justice, Mr. Banda met Mr. Kachale, while married to Joyce Ntila, in Kenya where Kachale was working at the Malawi Embassy. Banda and Kachale became friends. Each time Banda passed through Kenya he would stop over at the Kachales. That is how he got in contact with Joyce. Then the two started an affair. Joyce Banda will always claim that she left the marriage with Mr. Kachale because he was an abusive man.
However Mr. Kachale started drinking heavily after failing to end the affair between his wife and Mr. Banda, the justice minister. Mr. Banda’s behaviour to his wife Nyauhango and their children changed. He was now behaving as someone who was on love muti. He could not stay home. He stopped attending to needs of his wife and their home.
Because of the sweetness of her affair with Mr. Banda, Joyce Ntila left her marriage in Kenya and returned to Malawi where her upkeep was being given by Mr. Banda. But feeling that the upkeep was not enough, she decided to increase her fund raising adding on another man in her court.
The man was Dan Nkosi, the late husband of the current deputy reserve bank governor Mary Nkosi. So Joyce Ntila was running affairs with two married men at the same time for money. Seeing that Mr. Banda was delaying to leave his wife as he had promised, Joyce Ntila became troublesome.
When Mr Banda visited her, she would detain him not leave. Then she would contact Nyauhango and boast that her husband was with her.
This behaviour continued until Mr Banda broke up with his wife and Joyce Ntila took over and became Joyce Banda. But she did not end her affair with Dan Nkosi until he died. Today when Nyauhango looks at Joyce Banda, she does not take her as a leader but a husband snatcher, a bully, an abuser of fellow women.
The Response As Posted By One, Peter Kalua in My Malawi My Views on Wednesday January 9, 2013 Titled; Matter of Sedition: Facebook Is doing Joyce Banda Disservice
Patriots Forum has noted with concern that there are other citizens of this beautiful country who choose to disregard the Head of State by calling her names and profaning her in despicable manner to say the least.
The height of these insults was evident on January 8, 2013 on a popular Facebook forum, My Malawi My Views after one member posted an article that puts Joyce Banda in bad light as a person, parent and Head of State.
We still fail to understand why the post had to attract over a 100 comments before it was taken down either by the administrators or the one who posted it. In the midst of what we call “unnecessary and irrelevant post” one wise Malawian named Verson James Sonani posted on his timeline that; JOYCE BANDA. is a human being like any other, with strength and weakness.
However there must be discretion on what, where and how we say. if we may ask any contemporary figure to our angelic parents, to explain what they did in the past, l believe we would not want to hear such deeds. Nevertheless we love, protect and respect them
because of what God has made them to be to us. And we cant change that.
LETS RESPECT OUR MOTHER PRESIDENT The above is the kind of mindset we would love to see among all progressive Malawians. Though we exist in a pluralistic political sphere,we cherish wisdom at all times.
The use of civilized and decent language in deliberating matters in the political arena is of paramount importance if we are to positively forge ahead as a nation. Some of these insults are surely filtering through to the State House such that sometime last week President Joyce Banda had to remind us by quoting Romans 13:1-2 in a bid to bring us back on track.
The quoted scriptures read “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. 2 Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves”
Are we sure we are going to wait for the Head of State to remind us of our moral obligation to treat elders with dignity? If people can gather courage and say stupid things towards the Head of State it just reflects how rotten our society is getting morally and we need a very deep reflection.
Cognizant of the fact that we are a God fearing nation, our underlying values should always reflect in what we do and say in our homes, communities and various forums where we operate from.
Who in their wisdom find comfort in insulting a 63-year old woman who was chosen by God to lead a country? As we shape our frontiers towards a better Malawi, an important ingredient is that of refraining from foul language towards those that hold different views and affiliations to ours.
Besides being a moral obligation to respect Joyce Banda, the constitution also espouses the need to treat her with utmost dignity failure which charges of sedition are justifiably
Need we a reminder that those who insult the President of the land are arrested, charged and tried in accordance to the law? How does one justify an attack on the President just because we are using the social media? Do we hide our dark side behind Facebook or Twitter just because we cannot easily be traced? What about one’s own conscious before they utter such ridiculous statements?
We might have different versions of what President Joyce Banda is to oursociety since her birth but we cannot surely use foul language in order to nurse our filthy egos. Having said that, an argument will be raised to say the insults emanate from both sides of the political divide and in this case it is the PP and DPP cadres exchanging fire.
Patriots Forum has observed that this is true and due to the focus of this post we would like to urge those who support Joyce Banda to equally refrain from profane attacks
on other politicians.
As a forum, we believe it’s high time our government, through Parliament, looked into this matter critically. Let us have proper legislation in place to curb this cyber bullying towards the Head of State.
We believe those who really love the President will not conduct themselves in such a way that will draw irreverent feedback towards their leader. Insulting other political leaders is
bringing our Head of State into such tit-for-tat behavior resulting in people taking away her dignity and the decorum of her office.
Let us remain civilized always. We remain, Patriots Forum.